For the first 25 years of my life, I hardly ever expressed any anger or irritation. I was told, this is my problem.
Now, when I get angry and irritated, I say it. I do not hold it all back anymore.
So, people now tell me I’m temperamental, and that that is my problem. I should learn how to control myself.
(actually, if people could read my mind, and all the things I still leave unsaid, they would now that I do control myself!)
I conclude: People are never satisfied with who you are, so you better just stop listening/caring and make sure YOU are satisfied with who YOU are.